You either want to win or you don’t, period. There is no middle ground.
If you want to win, you’ll do what it takes. Most people don’t want to win. If you want to win, there is no room for excuses; it is a pursuit that takes a ferocious, consistent, intensity. You simply do what it takes, it's non-negotiable. This is true for sport, life, business, your craft, relationships, and self- development. You either have it or you don’t. It is difficult for someone who wants to win to be around those who are content with showing up for the participation award. This is a fundamental difference. When you meet someone for the first time, you can immediately screen him or her for this character trait. If they want to win, you immediately know more about the person. You get them, you know what they have done to get what they have, and you know what they are going to do to get where they want to go. It’s a calm, intensity. It’s a strong slow burning competitive fire, but they are only in daily competition with themselves.
Most people don’t want to win, most people don’t want to read, get up early, attack learning each day, train, eat healthy, and or work to actively improve themselves. Most people accept what they are given, and just show up.
“Once you say you’ll settle for second place, that’s what happens to you in life”
- John F. Kennedy
It takes a significant degree of self-discipline to do what it takes to put yourself in a position to win. It is an everyday kind of thing and engaging in self-discipline is praiseworthy in itself. If you have to think about whether you want to win, whether you are doing what it takes, you aren't. If you have to ask, you just aren't.
“Discipline Equals Freedom”
- Jocko Willink
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, you are the average of the 5 people you associate yourself with the most. So, if you want to win don’t surround yourself with people with a shelf full of participation trophies. Do something that matters, go get after it.